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  • lemmy.blahaj.zone has a decent amount of women and both their admins are women, it’s not a “women’s space” as one would describe since everyone is welcome there but it’s probably the closest thing one would describe as an instance “by women for women”. I am obligated to mention that it is a queer instance and that many of the women there are either trans themselves or strongly supportive of trans people, and do not tolerate transphobia or anti-LGBT sentiment (including refusal to support LGBTQ people) at all.



  • I’m not really sure about lemmy.zip. I’ve browsed it a little bit in the past and it seems like an okay instance. It does have a pretty short block list which, also could pose issues for new users should they stumble into hexbear or grad folks.

    However the biggest problem I’ve faced is that since it’s a .zip domain and my ISP seems to be doing something funny with them, I can’t actually connect with the server unless I’m on cellular, a VPN, or Tor.

    I’ve tried changing DNS settings and even setting up DoH but it doesn’t really seem to be helping. It only connects to the site when I’m not on my home network, or on a VPN or Tor. It’s possible that my scenario might be an edge case, and other isps may not actually be blocking zip domains. Though if it is happening with others, that could be a really frustrating problem for somebody facing it since the solution isn’t obvious (it just looks like there’s no connection).

    There may be other problems with the instance that I haven’t considered, like Federation issues or culture. The biggest and most glaring problem though is the connectivity issue, which probably isn’t universal, but has severely limited me from checking them out.





  • I actually personally wouldn’t recommend it for new users specifically because of the third one.

    I know that lots of ‘freeze peach’ trolls love to complain about defederation. The thing is though the majority of the defederations are actually beneficial to new users who may be scared or unnerved by some of the shit that comes out of those blocked instances.

    I think that it’s important for us to recognize that the stigma against defederation, is largely because of trolls who have to resort to sign ups on our servers to spread their messages here. There really aren’t a lot of arbitrary defederations, it’s mostly hate speech in spam. The stigma doesn’t really have the merit that it might seem.

    Additionally I would also not really recommend lemm.ee, for brand new users, on the count of their very loose moderation policy instance wide. Since that can create some scary and unpleasant situations that may be unnerving to normies.

    Another reason is that the image upload size is, unreasonably tiny on lemm.ee, and they limit your ability to do uploads for a long time. Something that will likely be very annoying to people who sign up there since they won’t be able to set up their account with a picture, and even when they can it will be ridiculously tiny. It can be really annoying, especially to new users when things don’t just work.

    Probably why, among other reasons, the idea of naming an instance shit just works, was even a thing. And even though you don’t like it because of the name I would still recommend it because they have insanely good and insanely effective moderation. Despite being one of the few instances that doesn’t ask people to beg or play 20 questions on signup.



  • Yeah and since Online bank accounts can also almost always be reset if you lose the 2FA/MFA key by calling customer support, or going to your bank and speaking with themt in person, there’s almost no risk of losing access completely. It’s a service you have access to because you’re you. Something that isn’t the case with Reddit, Github, Lemmy accounts, or Masotodon. I’m not able to regain access after losing those 2FA solutions by virtue of being myself, they treat you just like the attacker in those cases. Really not worth it there, both since what is being protected isn’t worth it, and the risk far outweighs it.