I wasn’t sure about a young guys name out here and asked someone “do you know the young black man who’s new in the neighborhood? I wanted to thank him for helping someone I know the other day.” After I helped host an event.

holy shit this person got mad at me. Said I needed to call them african canadian or colored. I get so confused by terms these days. Same with indigenous and native. I live in an area with many, and know some, and different ones prefer different words. I call one of them one term, and other that same one, they might get offended. I try to be as respectful as I can, gets hard.

Example, my therapist goes by indigenous, but her wife goes by native. So I thanked her wife one day for helping me at a indigenous event I was at, and she said “we call it a native event”.

I’m having such a hard time the past 2 years in particular, and trying really hard with all of these changes in terms, pronouns and every time I think I understand it, apparently I don’t. I have one trans friend who I see occasionally and thankfully they agree with me and makes me feel a bit less nutty.

My girlfriend is considering changing her orientation to some new wording I’ve literally never heard of all of a sudden now too. I just found a tonne of new things, like grey sexual, demisexual, etc. People I’ve been in employment/training programs with have changed their name and gender 2-3 times in the past year, and each time I see them I get confused with what to say or call them. It is oddly overwhelming.

sorry this turned into a slight vent

Internet 2 will be so hot

I’ve got it figured out enough for now, but still can be hard without using Lemmy Explorer to find things. I am hoping some apps like Memmy can incorporate better search functionality. There is so many that have similar/same names and its annoying finding the active one.

Also gets a bit weird thinking “Oh just found this cool community” and then seeing i need to make a new account, i understand it though.

This land is your land, this land is my land, from Lemmy Shitposts, to Lemmy World News

I like it so far. But I think the large amount of reddit users won’t like how separate everything is. Most of my friends and colleagues I’ve mentioned and shown it to, didn’t like it for that one reason. Reddit is a singular easy to access place with communities for everyone that is popular.

Fediverse (Lemmy in particular) needs to simplify I think for people to be able to adapt to it. My girlfriend made an account and is having trouble finding groups for herself, but willing to take the time cause I’m next to her all the time. But not everyones got that.

edit: also, i am using Memmy for Lemmy now on IOS, nice to have when not at my PC. Good app so far.