If you need to pay for something, it is a huge red flag.

For real, I haven’t seen much furry porn. In fact, I would say none… I don’t know how I did that.

I understood and appreciate your question but my point is that it is very complicated. I wouldn’t be surprised if a lot of polish people who lived by the polish-german border would learn German (maybe even in school) but I would be surprised if many Germans living on the same border, learned polish.

Those regulations exist for a reason. Be the reason.

I don’t mean “do the thing”, make it clear to them why the thing was banned. If you don’t know, look into your history books.

Hey, your question is kinda weird. And I mean it in a supportive way. Your understanding of borders and languages is wrong.

Country border aren’t language borders. If the local dialect is preserved, both sides of the border can probably communicate. If not, then it becomes a question of what dialect became the standard language? are a lot of people crossing the borders regularly? which side of the border has a higher interest learning the other language?.. And so much more.

I personally know a couple languages and some are from neighbors countries. I can cross the border in less than an hour. If I talk to someone from the other side in “our” dialects, we might experience the way the other person is talking as odd but we understand each other. But those who don’t know their local dialect, have a very hard time catching on, while tbh i don’t know why. Maybe because I know both languages, I see the similarities and they don’t and get confused by differences. On my side of the border, most natives speak the other country’s language fluently, for economical reasons. On the other side, it is unusual to find someone who can speak our language, and the local dialect.

In short, you will get a mixed bag of responses and there are patterns and reasons for it but you are kinda asking the wrong question to get a meaningful answer.

A practical example and the araising questions, in Belgium people speak a bunch of languages, french, German and Flemish(/dutch). Based on what I heard, the french part of the country doesn’t tend to speak Flemish and the Flemish part doesn’t speak french (or at least don’t want to). Does the french part speak the language of their neighbor, as they speak french, or not because it is also their own language? Is Flemish a language or just a dutch dialect? What about the German speaking part? If a Belgian learned french in school, while living in Flanders, would move to the french border, would that count as speaking their neighbors language? Or not?

I like your question but it is unfortunately one based in a flawed belief/thinking.

As far as I know telegram requires a phone number too.

And the conversation was about “talking to strangers without giving them your number”, not without giving signal nor telegram your number.

Signal supports username based chatting.

My advice for you is to humble yourself.

You make some big mistakes that will upset people that you care about.

1. Their issue

You are mistaken if you understand symptoms as cause. You see them complain about e.g. women but that doesn’t mean women are actually the problem or the cause. So if you look at them complaining about women, you might think why are they so focused on women and make themselves sad. But reality might be, they are sad and the attention of a woman gives them a lot of e.g. dopamine and makes them happy or proud of themselves. If the woman is now the source of comfort, any rejection or conflict is more than what it is, the women “steal” their comfort from them. That is just an example that I have seen played out around me in my teenager years. I am not saying that it is your friends issue.

2. Source of issue

You seem to think the source of the issue can be located in their decision to focus on the issue. That might be an issue at times but not always and if it is not, it is very insulting, rude, and maybe even harmful to assume so. In my example of what a common issue was in my teenage years, they didn’t focus on the issue (self-esteem issue and societal expectations) but on feeling good and those who “played” judge on whether or not they were allowed to feel good. Obviously a very deranged perspective on reality, but an understandable one. When we burn ourselves while cooking, we usually don’t question the decision that we want a warm meal. They feel pushed down a cliff when a girl whose they thought gave them positive attention, rejects them. They might not question if they should be seeking validation from others when they don’t approve themselves. They are the issue and not the woman but they are suffering and not seeing it clearly.

Again I don’t know if that is an issue, I am just giving an example to highlight your flawed thinking.

3. Consequences

The consequences of assigning a wrong issue and a wrong cause might not seem as big but you described some already. Alienation, both you from them and them from you. If you have an overly certain and/or overly simplified version of their issue, you will feel annoyed by them because they won’t go for the obvious solution And they will be annoyed by your attitude. Imagine your parents would die and a friend would say “they would have died eventually anyway”, would you take that positively? Because obviously, the issue isn’t that they are dead as much as they are dead now.

But with the alienation comes isolation, for e.g. actually medically diagnosed depressed people, isolation can be deadly. But it can also feed into alienation by reducing opportunities to bond and understand others. But once again, isolation is affecting both, you and your friend. If your friend starts to dislike you, they have one less person that can support them in their struggles. And if you lose enough friends like that, you can talk to yourself or post publicly to people about how you are happy and don’t understand your friends, because you don’t have friends to talk about it. I am not trying to be rude but I hope you see my point, instead of talking to your friends about their unhappiness and trying to get an understanding of them, you talk about your friends with random people online who don’t know you or your friends. That is like asking the random guy on the train if your mom has bday today.

4. Solution

Step back, accept that you are not them and that you can’t feel what they feel and that you don’t know them like they know themselves.

Don’t act like you know better, if you obviously don’t know.

Don’t talk about your happiness as if it was relevant. I am happy but I didn’t mention before because no one cares, it isn’t about me. It makes it seem like you are bragging about it, to those who aren’t.

Look into actual depression, just so you can humble yourself a little bit by realizing that they can’t easily control their brains chemicals and judging them for that might be a dick move.

In short, become someone who respects the struggles of others especially if you don’t know the struggle.

Lastly, your ability to do stuff with your body might be peace to you but others are struggling with just that. I know people who are smart and generally able but they just can’t make themselves do stuff. They sit there for hours, trying to focus on a task but their brain drifts away. Their knowledge of their possibilities if it weren’t for their inability to focus, pains them greatly and makes it very difficult to not blame themselves for it, even though they are medically diagnosed that their brain is just not working like a “normal” healthy brain. Your source of peace might be the source of great pain for others.

There are a lot of moving parts here.

My parents and grandparents are fully aware of my lack of belief. So my parents won’t be shocked that my children don’t believe. I don’t mind letting e.g. my mother tell them about Jesus because realistically, humans believe what their environment believes and for my children, I am mostly their environment. So I don’t think some exposure to christian beliefs will have a bad influence and my counter-influence would be present, so my children can choose.

My so’s parents and grandparents don’t know about our lack of belief. Her mom is aware of my lack of belief in a religion. Now that makes the whole children thing more complicated but… We are a couple thousand kilometers away… So… I hope they accept that we don’t want to provide our children with any religious education until they are ready to understand it. So at an age at which children are able to lie in the worst case.

My message to him as a straight guy:

It is fine to be bi. Suck dick if you like it. Enjoy!

Honestly it is embarrassing. Fucking over a literal hero because he is gay???

Who is possessive in your “chicken’s egg”? Whose egg is it? The animal who laid the egg or the animal who lays in the egg?

I am fairly certain that chicken egg is chicken’s egg after a couple decade of human being lazy. We love to drop stuff in languages.

So chicken’s egg vs chicken’s egg.

That is a linguistical question. What does “chicken” in “chicken egg” mean? What is chicken? What is in the egg or who laid it?

I agree.

I think it is a side effect if it runs on a modern Os. But honestly who cares…

I have made experiences with annoying PHP devs and I don’t hate them.

My critic wasn’t towards rust devs or any devs of any language but towards idolization of a language instead of studying the nature of those languages the flaws and advantages and use the best tool available or attempting to create a better tool.

I see your perspective and I think you kinda miss my perspective which I am to blame for.

I don’t say there weren’t improvements. I am saying that given the uncertainty of “goodness”. Maybe we shouldn’t idolize it. You can appreciate the attempt of creating memory safe code through a programing language without thinking the bare metal code should be written in that language. You can like a typeless easy to write language like Js without thinking desktop app should be written in it. You can like the idea behind functional programming while believing that any application is in the end about side effects and therefore a purely functional application impossible.

You can approach the whole topic as an area of study and possible technological advances instead of a dogma.

There have been “improvements” but fundamentally in my perspective, these “improvements” could be revealed to be a mistake down the line.

Assembly has produced some insane pieces of software that couldn’t be produced like that with anything else.

Maybe types in programming languages are bad because they are kinda misleading as the computer doesn’t even give a shit about what is data and what is code.

Maybe big projects are just a bad idea in software development and any kind of dependency management is the wrong way.

I like modern languages, types and libraries are nice to have, but I am not the student of the future but of the past.

I am proud of you and wish you happiness in your little corner of this world.

It is so weird when people idolize programming languages. They are all flawed and they all encourage some bad design patterns. Just chill and pick yours.

That is the good kind of conditional love; condition is “love yourself and work towards a better tomorrow”