Truth doesn’t feel good. People want to feel good.

Psychologically it’s not different than biology in the sense that people don’t want to work out and eat healthy… they want to be lazy and eat energy dense food.

Bingo. This is the fundamental disconnect I encounter on a daily basis. All anyone wants to do is lecture me about how they are right, and I am wrong if I think different than them. And if you don’t give into them they simply start insulting or shaming you, hoping they can emotionally abuse you into compliance with their beliefs. Or they just think you are evil and divide the world up into hyperbolic terms.

That isn’t how you learn or win people over to your side. All it does is promote ignorance & alienation, and that’s what we have an overabundance of in our current society.

I’m apparently old-fashioned/out of date, but I went to college to learn how to understand, assess, and communicate with other people… seems like that is no longer what people are taught or at least, no longer value it.

I beat elden ring and the expansion.

it took me 200 hours. it took me 6+ months and a few holiday breaks to do it.

most games are like 1/10 of that length. game is crazy massive and long and detailed. and id’ probably have to sink 500h+ to get all the details and endings and experience the various play styles.

because i’m at work. or tired as fuck at the end of a long day.

or it’s because IRL our gaming interests aren’t something we can talk about. I haven’t had a IRL friend who thinks gaming is cool since I was 15. I’m 40 now. for 25 anytime I bring up my interest in games my ‘friends’ or girlfriends cringe and tell me to STFU about my weird immature stupid interest.

on twitch and youtube i can find people who share my joy of games and appreciate them and openly talk about their fond memories of playing them and how important they were to their childhood. IRL talking saying shit like that gets you socially shamed and ostracized.

Western world is still pretty much the only place where homosexuals aren’t. Rest of the world… murdered pretty regularly. Asia, Africa, South America, middle east, are all FAR less ‘progressive’ than Western democratic countries.

lol they were fine with it as long as the queers were whores and such. they could not be citizens.

only people who had any power in Rome were male roman citizens, and the wealthy ones at that.

and lots and lots of folks blame the downfall of Rome on it’s ‘decay’ of allowing homosexuality and such

human brains are dumb.

takes a lot of effort and work to train your brain to not be dumb.

just like it takes lots of effort to keep your body fit and healthy.

cognitive biases are very very hard to overcome for highly educated people, let alone uneducated ones.

Dude, plenty of Democrats in their 30s who say they are progressive are raging bigots and support racist policies.

They are just quiet about it. They aren’t saying crazy racist nonsense on tiktok, but if you talk to them about issues like housing or schools… they make it very obvious what they think. Using polite language, of course. Black people are great, as long as they don’t live near them, or go to the same school as their kid goes to! These are the same people who are NIMBY because they don’t want ‘people who haven’t worked as hard as I have’ from living near them.

queer and black people don’t have money. those other groups do.

if all the sudden queer people were billionaires, you can sure as shit bet they’d be promised political power. in exchange for their money. they’d be running corporations, in political office, etc.

it just turns out that it’s mostly white dudes who have all the money, and some white women, and the occasional random other non-white person has it. in USA at least. obviously different in other countries.

Because the right offers people stability, authority, etc. People like that.

They don’t like left because it’s too vague and complicated to understand their points of view.

Trans people = bad is a lot easier for the average person to understand, than explaining to them what a transsexual person is and isn’t, and the various types of trans/queer identities. That shit requires a dictionary and hours of time to understand.

they are popular because they provide simple answers to complex issues.

People like that. Esp younger folks.

Just like the alt right is so popular with them, because it gives them simple answers.

Left doesn’t have simple answers. Wants you to listen to a college course type of lecture on every issue… people don’t care about that. They want a simple soundbyte they can emotionally respond to. Left is very poor at that… there are some examples, but they dont’ really get much traction outside of leftist/socialist circles.

it’s mostly that it is social wedge issue that drives up ratings, outrage, and politicians can grandstand about it. And make up crazy bullshit about kids being forced to transition by evil doctors or something.

and therefore we can ignore real issues in the country while the media/pols rant on about total nonsense that affects hardly anyone and mostly isn’t real or relevant to trans people.

not even. 1950s we had this idealized version that everyone was heterosexual, owned a home and had strict gender roles.

That shit is now all blown apart. And for most folks the complexities of it all are beyond understanding.

And it cuts both ways. I don’t care about other people’s genders and identities, but boy they care about mine. Gotten plenty of sexist slurs from queer/trans people based on my gender and lots of shitty assumptions. I’m bi, but I ‘present’ as a heterosexual dudebro, and it makes non-gender conforming people angry at me for some reason, also many insecure straight men and women. Only people who don’t seem to care are people who are bi, or secure in their sexuality. Way too many people feel the need to do that though.

exactly. and bigotry isn’t limited to sex or race stuff.

people pretty much hate anyone who is different than them. even so called progressive inclusive hippie types… will express crazy bigotry towards groups they don’t like based on crude stereotypes that are largely not true.

our brains love to generalize. They don’t like treating people who are different than us as worth our acknowledgement and esteem.

a lot of software dev people are incredibly naive when it comes to how human beings interact and behave.

their biggest mistake is often they assume other people are chill nerds like they are…

i already have had multiple weirdos harass me on lemmy for not being leftist enough. i’ve blocked dozens now, and really kills the experience to have some crazy people go around and brigading your comments because you disagree with their political viewpoint slightly.

way too many people take the internet comments/points WAY too seriously…

I taught business ethnics for MBAs when i was in graduate school.

The only ‘ethics’ they learned was ‘maximize shareholder value at any price’. They spent an entire semester learning to to argue why murdering people and abusing people was morally justified as long as the share price goes up. That was the curriculum. Nothing else mattered.

That’s usually the radical leftists who prioritize ideology and loyalty to the cause.

What gets me is a lot of people in the education world are starting adopting this bullshit attitude. My city removed advanced level math courses from middle/high school because it was ‘unfair’ to students who lacked the talent/drive to be good at maths… basically handicapping everyone because a subset of the students were bad at math. Basically nobody is allowed to be better than someone at something and pursue their talents… because that is ‘mean and hurtful’. WTF