macrocarpa

I don’t live in the us so I can’t comment on any change that has been or not been.

I do know that privilege itself obscures experience. Compassion and empathy are built on experience. Therefore expecting someone who is privileged to have compassion or empathy to those without the same privilige is unrealistic. They have to be shown, or brought to a point where they can align their experience with others.

exclusively cishet white population who are financially well off.

…there’s your problem.

Why would they care? At worst they’re unaffected. At best they’re benefitting. What is their impetus for change?

Never been a multiplayer fan, reading the above its the same story as many other hobbies and recreations tho right?

offer a neverending challenge

…which requires continuous ongoing investment to overcome or even compete

There’s always a better opponent

…who has more time or resource to put into getting better

And I’ve made a lot of good friends through these communities.

…because they attract similar minded people, but there’s also toxic dickheads as well

I feel like the good bits and the bad hits of community are the community

Sometimes the base level of aggression or the base level of inflection is way higher than what you’re locally tuned for.

Anecdotally I have found even business conversations with people from the US to be over the top. Especially through the sales cycle. There is a lot of hype that I need to adjust for in comparison to vendors in the UK, Europe and Asia.

It’s not a bad thing, it’s a social standard. I probably appear quiet reserved and shy by comparison.

Gratitude makes you live longer, feel better, and it’s free.

Yeah no. Performance, reliability, uptime are huge.

Younger than 45

Oh OK that actually makes sense.

45 year olds and above are digital immigrants. In short, they had an off-line childhood and an online adulthood. They have different speech and writing patterns to you because they learnt and communicated in a different way to you.

Assuming you’re under 45, this won’t make sense, because you’ve never experienced a world which doesn’t have this sort of interaction. You’re a digital native, digital tech has always been there.

In twenty years time, children born or educated after the advent of chat gpt will have the same problem understanding you. The way you write, post and interact will seem clunky and old fashioned. It’s already happening - we’re having to adapt the way we interact, in order to be able to ‘be understood’ by AI.

The wonderful thing about humanity, tho, is that we do adapt and adopt! Consider this - everyone over the age of 50 had to learn something completely new to them in order to be able to communicate with you via email, sms or messaging app. They used to just talk, or write letters. Sharing media was a physical act. Yet here they are using the same texh as you. Awesome.

Maybe you didn’t experience the bullying that was happening, or you weren’t on the outer of the cliques that existed?

What’s the rest of his works like? I’ve read snow crash and loved it, will give seveneves a go.

Theres a video on youtube of romesh ranganathan, a successful Sri Lankan British comic who is fucking hilarious, successful and famous. Talented, clever, funny guy.

He says “I have an utter prick living inside my head and he talks to me a all the time…hes a fucking asshole”

Same voice as op

Even when you’re doing something of growth it finds a reason. Like op, training himself to be better in muay Thai and only comparing himself to those younger, faster and fitter than him. How could you possibly win that comparison.

The rise of feminism has seen the steady devaluation of the contribution of men in those areas of society where they should be most active. Rather than celebrate and recognise what’s right, the focus is on attacking what’s wrong.

The majority of men are lonely, isolated and uncared for. Many feel unvalued, unsafe and vulnerable. There is less community support for men than there has been in the past, less institutional support, and a continued decline in the tolerance of men being in shared places. The minimisation of value in societal roles is yet another way that men are cut off.

This seems to escape the vision of feminism. There is always claim of ideological alignment, where the empowerment of women directly benefits men, but when it comes to any form of concrete action that helps men that need help, or celebrates men that contribute - it’s nowhere to be seen.

Men kill themselves. They kill themselves. In their thousands. Leaving cratered families, trauma, guilt from the survivors, many of whom are female. Because they feel valueless, helpless and can’t see a purpose to going on.

Accountability goes both ways. In demanding support from men, feminism must support men.

The behaviours that the youth detest in elders were acceptable in the elders youth. All that changed was time. It’ll happen to you, too, and you won’t give a fuck what the kids are saying.

Yay, something I can talk to.

I’m a middle manager in tech delivery. Started in a different industry, moved into the saas world at the right time, became a dev, became a contractor, made lots of money, had a family, needed more regular hours so went the management route, less money, more stress. About a year ago I took on a new role which has me across approx 10 directs each who have their own squads of 6 to 10 people.

I don’t hate it but it is hard work. And yes it is objectively harder and more stressful than being a developer, simply because of the level of accountability that I personally take.

In terms of expertise. I know a deep amount about one platform, a moderate amount about three others and I have no fucking clue about the rest. Integration, for instance. Yet I’m accountable for delivery and eye watering budgets. I’m sure the devs have a similar opinion of me as to what’s posted elsewhere in the thread, that I don’t understand the specific technology hence shouldn’t be directing the work stream, but the thing is - thats not the role.

The role is to manage money and people. The array of brilliant technologists who i’ve seen step into leadership roles then slowly drown and fail is distressing. So when I’m looking for leads to bring into positions, a lot of the time I’m looking for people who naturally want to step forward and want to lead. Most of the time they do well even without the full depth of tech.

I think this is the link back to your question. Like, can you go back to being a dev? If your promotion to management was as a result of being the most experienced dev, then yes absolutely, you should fit back in fine. If you were promoted because you were the voice in the team that said why or how or what if or let’s do this, then I’m sorry. Leadership will seek you out once again.