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  • First off, thanks for answering. I’m a bit obsessed with this kinda stuff.

    I mean, there’s all kinds of ethical philosophy out there. I don’t really deviate too far from it.

    So vaguely western ethics? I mean some ethics frameworks are quite incompatible.

    In practice, there’s a lot that most people can agree on without too much thought, too.

    This is a theme I see. It’s fair to not think through it, especially when it feels obvious.

    For example, the classical case study for how being agreeable can work against doing the right thing is how ordinary and nice a lot of Nazis were, when not being ordered into atrocities.

    This is consistent with the above statements. I sorta agree, but obviously I have a different worldview.


    So my best guess given all that is that doing a bad thing from your perspective is: Doing something you consciously know will bring harm to others.

    Which I think requires:

    • Free will / Independence / a distinction between internal and external.

    Does that sound right?




  • No. We make choices, we think, but those choices come frome somewhere. And all of the roots are beyond our control. There is no room for free will, it is a magical reduction of why we do things. We don’t say a ball has free will when it is kicked down a hill. I can’t separate myself from the ball in any meaningful way.














  • Disclaimer: people are complicated. I sorta have to project to answer and I dont know exactly what causes your jealousy.

    I used to get a lot more jealous. I used to think that I was the right partner for someone and that they were making a mistake by being with someone else. I kinda justified it with this half baked empathy that wanted the girl to be happy, but didn’t accept her as an intelligent person that can navigate and choose a partner for herself.

    My jealousy was rooted in a bit of a superiority complex. I needed to accept that there are a lot of good people out there just trying to find a partner. That I’m not better than them.

    I think it is fine to have feelings for a girl, its also fine to be disappointed when they don’t reciprocate. No need to try and not feel those feelings. I think it is a big ask to try and control our romantic attraction, but we can manage how we respond to it.

    Though again, what if I’m wrong and maybe this stems from an attachment issue yk? I’m over here projecting. Hope this helps anyways.


  • pebbles@sh.itjust.workstoAsklemmy@lemmy.mlAm I a bad person?
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    11 months ago

    I get why you would feel like a bad person. You stole and that’s easily considered wrong. Feeling bad about that is natural.

    I think you are allowed room for mistakes. And if something is a habit it is good to be kind to yourself. Cleaning up a long held bad habit can take longer than we expect.

    My advice is that sometimes we realize we want to live differently, and that’s awesome. You obviously want to give back and be kind to people. You are also very young and impulse control is a bitch. It doesn’t finish developing till late 20s.

    You’ll make more mistakes in the future. You’ll realize you’ve hurt people and that’s okay, that’s life. Just keep adjusting and don’t be too hard on yourself.