In this order:

1. Tell other adults you trust about the situation. Your wife. Her parents if possible. More than one other person.

2. Explain to her in very clear terms that you can’t have that kind of relationship. It’s not about what anybody feels, it’s about what is possible.

3. At the FIRST sign of any type of revenge seeking behavior, that’s when you consider the authorities and rely on backup from the adults you spoke to.

She very well might listen to you, process the rejection for what it is, and move on. Or she might flip out and cause you a mess. If she handles it well, she’s learned something and you’ve treated a growing human with respect. If she doesn’t, your ass is covered.

You are incorrect. The republican party is the party of bigotry and cruelty. To vote for them is an explicit endorsement. Adults are accountable for their allegiances and their actions, and we have had decades to learn.

When you need to resort to “but I have black friends” to defend racism, you’ve lost.

Electing republicans is in itself blatantly racist.

I certainly hope your turn to fight it never comes.

People said everything you’re saying 30 years ago and used it to justify letting fascism grow unchecked. Now we’re here and you are still afraid to be firm. You are why they’re in power.

No more compromises. No more chances. No more conversations. People are being abducted. People are dying. There’s no time left for patience.

They change NOW. Or they can fuck off.

I’m not interested in the reasoning behind bigotry.

Nope. They’ve had plenty of time to see the results of their actions. They’re complicit at this point.

Zero irony. Nothing funny here. Nazis fuck off. Republicans fuck off. Trumpers fuck off.

Unless you’re a republican or other type of nazi. Then you can absolutely go all the way to hell.

Tolerance got us here.

Well we have plenty of executives to practice on.

Immediately had that thought as well.

Don’t blame the barn for not holding the horses when you leave the fucking door open.