Spoke with my mother over the weekend. Told her how my partner got purse-snatched last week. She talked about rising crime. I just stayed quiet and didn’t engage, let the topic change. She’s a Trump voter, but she doesn’t get it from him. She gets it from Fox News.
Why did you not engage her? It is this sort of silence that empowers her and other like her. I get it, this is your mother but at the same time you are allowed to voice the truth and push back a little. Not to the level of an all out ‘war’ of course, I get that, but some push back is allowed. If that doesn’t land well, there’s not a whole lot you can do but if I were you I would drop nuggets of info every single time, just to not let it pass and give the impression they are right. It needs to be uncomfortable to air these lies.
Engagement nearly led to the end of our relationship in 2020. I countered her shit statistic of cop-related deaths (something like less than 100 in a year) easily with a Google search. She said she would choose to believe the number she read. I just about told her we would never speak again after months of moments like that. Only by blocking all politics could we remain family.
Spoke with my mother over the weekend. Told her how my partner got purse-snatched last week. She talked about rising crime. I just stayed quiet and didn’t engage, let the topic change. She’s a Trump voter, but she doesn’t get it from him. She gets it from Fox News.
Why did you not engage her? It is this sort of silence that empowers her and other like her. I get it, this is your mother but at the same time you are allowed to voice the truth and push back a little. Not to the level of an all out ‘war’ of course, I get that, but some push back is allowed. If that doesn’t land well, there’s not a whole lot you can do but if I were you I would drop nuggets of info every single time, just to not let it pass and give the impression they are right. It needs to be uncomfortable to air these lies.
Engagement nearly led to the end of our relationship in 2020. I countered her shit statistic of cop-related deaths (something like less than 100 in a year) easily with a Google search. She said she would choose to believe the number she read. I just about told her we would never speak again after months of moments like that. Only by blocking all politics could we remain family.