The real issue here is actually just your opinion of games. You consider games to be “sit around dick around” time wasters.
If that’s all it is to you then yeah you’ll naturally find yourself moving on as basically anything else will be more fulfilling.
Games to me are a form of art which have the power to change lives. A medium I’ve been continuing to develop an appreciation for my entire life, alongside other pursuits such as music. As life gets hectic into adulthood I’ve found that games are far more meaningful to me now than ever before.
And I’m not sitting around looking for time to kill. I make time to play because of how restorative and life affirming it is. Games like Citizen Sleeper, Spiritfarer, Outer Wilds, To The Moon, Slay the Princess, Hollow Knight, Eastward, Arctic Eggs. Some experiences stay with you forever, expand the depth of your empathy, and steer your heart towards kindness.
I don’t know what’s gonna happen to you if you try to crank out endless rounds of Call of Duty to the point where it interferes with you taking your dog to the vet. But I’m 100% certain all working adults would benefit from engaging with meaningful art regularly. Be it games, books, film, etc. Whatever strikes you.
I found that I can’t just start and stop reading and get anything out of it in the same way that I can’t just start and stop a game, but that’s good that you can.
Yeah that’s part of what makes games specifically so valuable. It asks a lot of you. You have to meet it where it’s at. You have to muster the energy to be able to appreciate it even when life drags you down. Otherwise you can’t progress.
I obviously don’t know you, and reading books and investing time in your family is obviously great. But to anyone generally, I would say be careful and make sure you advocate for your time and energy. It’s very common for people to fall into a loop of passivity. The audiobook is on in the car but their mind is elsewhere. They endlessly scroll algorithmic slop on their phone without it ever actionably enriching them. They turn on a show at the end of the day just to tune out.
If your life is already full of the experiences that make it worth living, great! Again, I don’t know you. But irl, what I see most often when people complain about not having time for deep passions is that their job drains them, then their responsibilities drain them, then they lay, crushed, letting images on the screen flash by them as the days turn into months. Then somehow years go by and they’re left without the memory of ever living them.
In the midst of this, many people adopt the belief that they’ve simply aged out of participating in deep passions, and the way life slips through their fingers is just the way life is. This is a difficult belief to weed out once it has taken root. Ironically Outer Wilds specifically is a great way to confront this mindset lol
Thing is, I would like to have some time for this. However, I just can’t prioritize it above the responsibilities of life. If I don’t play a game, there is no real impact beyond a little disappointment. If I don’t handle the other stuff, there are real and immediate (often expensive) consequences.
I believe that every person should have a hobby that enriches their life. However, I also feel like that enrichment demands some effort. Things like painting, playing an instrument, sculpting, demand effort but provide reward in equal measure over time. Not just for the individual, but for others who also get to experience the results.
Playing a game is an indulgence; its like a movie or show that you participate in. The end result is an experience for the player alone.
I don’t see life enrichment by pursuit of arts and crafts as the same as consuming a game. I truly believe that you must move beyond playing games and that adults who do not pursue beyond are experiencing arrested development. Games are fun, but if you stop there, you miss so much. That’s why I don’t prioritize them and I find it fascinating that saying something as noncontroversial like “you should stop gaming at a certain age” really touches a nerve with so many people.
The real issue here is actually just your opinion of games. You consider games to be “sit around dick around” time wasters.
If that’s all it is to you then yeah you’ll naturally find yourself moving on as basically anything else will be more fulfilling.
Games to me are a form of art which have the power to change lives. A medium I’ve been continuing to develop an appreciation for my entire life, alongside other pursuits such as music. As life gets hectic into adulthood I’ve found that games are far more meaningful to me now than ever before.
And I’m not sitting around looking for time to kill. I make time to play because of how restorative and life affirming it is. Games like Citizen Sleeper, Spiritfarer, Outer Wilds, To The Moon, Slay the Princess, Hollow Knight, Eastward, Arctic Eggs. Some experiences stay with you forever, expand the depth of your empathy, and steer your heart towards kindness.
I don’t know what’s gonna happen to you if you try to crank out endless rounds of Call of Duty to the point where it interferes with you taking your dog to the vet. But I’m 100% certain all working adults would benefit from engaging with meaningful art regularly. Be it games, books, film, etc. Whatever strikes you.
I switched to books. Portable, cheap, can start/stop any time. Can read in down moments, can listen on long car rides.
I started playing Outer Wilds. I just don’t have the time to prioritize it to the point where I can enjoy it.
I found that I can’t just start and stop reading and get anything out of it in the same way that I can’t just start and stop a game, but that’s good that you can.
Yeah that’s part of what makes games specifically so valuable. It asks a lot of you. You have to meet it where it’s at. You have to muster the energy to be able to appreciate it even when life drags you down. Otherwise you can’t progress.
I obviously don’t know you, and reading books and investing time in your family is obviously great. But to anyone generally, I would say be careful and make sure you advocate for your time and energy. It’s very common for people to fall into a loop of passivity. The audiobook is on in the car but their mind is elsewhere. They endlessly scroll algorithmic slop on their phone without it ever actionably enriching them. They turn on a show at the end of the day just to tune out.
If your life is already full of the experiences that make it worth living, great! Again, I don’t know you. But irl, what I see most often when people complain about not having time for deep passions is that their job drains them, then their responsibilities drain them, then they lay, crushed, letting images on the screen flash by them as the days turn into months. Then somehow years go by and they’re left without the memory of ever living them.
In the midst of this, many people adopt the belief that they’ve simply aged out of participating in deep passions, and the way life slips through their fingers is just the way life is. This is a difficult belief to weed out once it has taken root. Ironically Outer Wilds specifically is a great way to confront this mindset lol
Thing is, I would like to have some time for this. However, I just can’t prioritize it above the responsibilities of life. If I don’t play a game, there is no real impact beyond a little disappointment. If I don’t handle the other stuff, there are real and immediate (often expensive) consequences.
I believe that every person should have a hobby that enriches their life. However, I also feel like that enrichment demands some effort. Things like painting, playing an instrument, sculpting, demand effort but provide reward in equal measure over time. Not just for the individual, but for others who also get to experience the results.
Playing a game is an indulgence; its like a movie or show that you participate in. The end result is an experience for the player alone.
I don’t see life enrichment by pursuit of arts and crafts as the same as consuming a game. I truly believe that you must move beyond playing games and that adults who do not pursue beyond are experiencing arrested development. Games are fun, but if you stop there, you miss so much. That’s why I don’t prioritize them and I find it fascinating that saying something as noncontroversial like “you should stop gaming at a certain age” really touches a nerve with so many people.