This is so weird to me. Maybe it’s about who you are, or who you run with, but when I saw that Discord was about to go that way, I messaged my Pathfinder group and every single person there immediately hit me back with, “so where to next?”

This response vexes me because while Uncle Barry here is certainly an example, what these people are forgetting (and what this thing about Uncle Barry glosses over) is that until the Americans with Disabilities Act, and the fights from the 70s onward, if a family in the US had a child with an IQ of under 70, they were often shipped off to an institution.

Deinstitutionialization didn’t really begin to gain steam until relatively recently in our collective history- here in Tennessee we still had one of these facilities open until the nineties. These people didn’t believe there were people with severe mental disabilities, because our society hid them away!

Look up Clover Bottom. But don’t, because it’s horrifying. I’ve met people who lived there their entire lives. What was done to them was disgusting.

It is awful what was done to them. But it’s awful that people with a greater severity of condition, a greater need for care, are often glossed over in these comment sections. It feels like they’re made invisible in these conversations just like they were in those institutions! And I’m terrified that assholes like RFK Jr will disappear them for real!

Oh and I’m not not a nudist because of prude things. I run chilly so if I don’t have clothes on, it’s because I’m uncomfortably hot. Just a quick of my biology- I come in two settings, blankets and hoodies, or soaked in sweat.

I’m not anemic anymore either so 🤷

I’m not really planning on pushing the issue, for all I know Janet got cold feet and is using him as an excuse

I was actually going to point this out. I’m glad you anticipated it.

But also I want to add that I’m a woman in a relationship with a man who would support me doing whatever I want in life, and if I wanted to go on a trip to a nudist place and he didn’t, I wouldn’t want to go. Not only because I like spending time with him most of all people, but also because, while I don’t imagine I’d need to defend myself at such a location, I prefer to have him around in case I ever feel the need for violence. He keeps my hands clean quite nicely.

But it’s mostly the “he’s my favorite person so if enjoy doing something more if he were there” thing.

The funny thing about this is, my partner is a nudist, and I’m not. I asked him if he would want to go to a nudist resort if I wanted to say no, and he said he’d rather spend time with me at home than go somewhere to be nude (and he doesn’t wear anything at home anyway).

This is less for the hardware portion and more for the human element;

Figure out what you want your instance to be about and be very clear about it. Maybe write up your rules and have someone friendly with experience go over it with a rules-lawyer vibe, because a lot of the unfun parts of running anything revolve around a tiny segment of the population who will test you.

I have a lot of experience with this if you need assistance, and I know there are others here who do as well.

Remember, being clear about what you stand for and what you want your instance to stand for isn’t just a benefit for you, it also helps let users know whether they agree with you or not, as there’s always another server they can join or post on if they prefer.

ETA; if you’re open to it, I also have a lot of friends who love going over rules with a fine-tooth comb and enjoy helping people, so I could share it with them, too. You can also post openly on Lemmy somewhere and invite discussion. Remember, what you want most is to create the specific space you want. The more specific, the better. And that excluding people isn’t always bad! Safe spaces are necessary.

I’ve only played a few minutes of Witcher 3 so far and even I know Ciri is an apprentice to Geralt! I said to myself, “I don’t know who these people are yet but I guess she’ll be the main character in a sequel.”

Ooh, excellent one.

You can make it from milk and butter if I remember. You can make it from double cream (heavy whipping cream in the US).

And I would love to just buy a jar but I can’t find them anywhere except online!! It’s such a shame because I grew up enjoying it, and went a few years too busy to have anything with it, and then when I went to buy it… nowhere.

Eta: If someone has a solution for me in the US thst doesn’t involve paying a fortune online, I am all ears! More ears than anything really.

I’ve been mad about UHT milk ever since I discovered I can’t make clotted cream with the ultra high temperature stuff. I don’t want unpastuerized milk but ffs, let me have some texture I can work with!

I agree. I think it’s worse than we already know.

I bet you’re right. If you leave a plastic bottle in the sun, the water tastes god-awful.

I used to do Huel pretty regularly because one of my medicines makes me not want food and shakes are tolerable. But they kept selling out of my favorite flavor!

Here’s hoping it’s not too toxic!

Oh my gosh, I never thought of that!

I bought an air fryer, but honestly, I never use it because I hate cleaning the basket. I didn’t even think about the top!

Adding this one to my list. Definitely nothing good about blasting your food with old oils.

I get where they’re coming from! I was a kid when the aerosols were burning a hole in the ozone layer, and it taught me to distrust anything that can come out of a can too quickly.

I also drink tea but in between swallows I could see myself enjoying a vape, if they weren’t bad for me. Which is why I have never used one.

E: Drinking Yukon Gold at the mo’.

I just saw an article the other day that black plastic utensils are toxic. I’m right there with you.

A couple places near me still use styrofoam. I can’t get past it.

I didn’t even know such a thing existed!

I wouldn’t be surprised. I wish there was a way to enjoy flavor without any horrific side effects.

We know that depending on your use it can ruin your attention span. But I agree, it’s probably worse than we know.

It absolutely counts, if you wouldn’t be surprised to learn that it’s worse for you than you know.