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  • I find the easiest way to forget C++ is to try watching CppCon on YouTube.

    I’ve been doing C++ professionally since 1991.

    But when I watch CppCon, what the hell are they gabbling on about? It’s all complete gobbledegook! They may as well be speaking in an ancient Goa’uld dialect for all the sense it makes. These people are so far down a rabbithole I start to wonder if they’ve ever seen the surface.

    I am therefore forced to the conclusion that despite 34 years of experience in C++ I don’t know C++.





  • letsgo@lemm.eetoPrivacy@lemmy.mlLooking for email providers.
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    6 months ago

    Posteo was the winner when I last looked over the alternatives, although I haven’t switched yet. Tuta, mailbox.org and Runbox were runners up.

    Various reasons (mostly price, provider getting blocked too much, and being in the USA) led to a hard “no” for CounterMail, Soverin, Mailfence, StartMail, Fastmail, Proton, RiseUp, Hushmail, Skiff and Mail.com.

    It’s likely you don’t need a VPN. You’re putting a lot of trust in that company; make sure it’s well founded. I just use my ISP for normal stuff, then when I want to surf under the radar for one reason or another I open up Tor.











  • A support band for Madness. To call them crap would be an insult to all the genuinely crap bands out there. They went through crap and came out the other side. Then they went through whatever level of shitness that was and came out the other side. I don’t think anyone applauded them, except when they stopped making whatever ungodly racket they were making and went offstage. I’ve never been more relieved to hear a bunch of unmusical talent-free potty-mouthed morons finally STFU.


  • Being trusted in a particular location does not depend on your feelings but on whether or not your behaviour demonstrates that you have earned that trust. Looking for boundaries - how much you can get away with - does not demonstrate you can be trusted, unless you frame it from the other person’s perspective, for example you could ask your mom if she’s comfortable for dates to pick you up from a few houses down the road, and if not how far out you should go. This lets her set the boundary she’s comfortable with and you can gain trust by respecting that boundary and not attempting to push it - in fact go the other way and add 25 yards to it.


  • Your rights as an adult are that you now get to make your own rules and everyone else has to respect them. But the flipside of that is that you also have to respect everyone else’s rules, especially those of a homeowner.

    That homeowner might have rules about whether or not you can wear shoes inside, or whether you can smoke inside, etc. When you own your own place you get to make rules like this yourself, and you will be within your rights to expect your visitors, tenants and offspring to abide by them.

    If for example you make a rule that says “Don’t tell strangers my address” then you would be right to expect your children to abide by that rule.

    This is your mom’s rule and you have to abide by it. Tell your dates to pick you up and drop you off somewhere nearby without giving away your home address, and when you want to invite them home you need your mom’s agreement first, because it’s her house and her rules.

    BTW the “I want it my way!” attitude is that of a kid not an adult. Grown-ups make agreements and stick to them. If you want different rules you can try to negotiate with her, but you have to accept if she won’t change them. There are good reasons for not letting unknown people know your address.